How to remember your loved ones at Christmas.

Published on December 08, 2015

Christmas is defined by time with our loved ones, family traditions and a celebration of the many things we have to be thankful for. Although many of us now send long lists to Santa and spend more money that we can afford, Christmas is still the most magical time of the year, when we all feel a little peace, signs of hope and a lot of joy.

For many though, Christmas time is tinged with a sadness that only those that have lost a loved one will understand. Whether it's a seat at the dinner table, a present under the tree or a card on the mantle place, we really feel absence at Christmas time. The team at Plan My Funeral have some suggestions for remembering loved ones during the festive season and wanted to share them with you, just in case you were looking for a different way to say "I love you" to the special people missing from your celebrations.
Decorate the tree.
Christmas trees are so magical and become the centrepiece of our homes during the festive season. Many of us have special baubles or decorations that take us back to childhood and we think a personalised decoration is a wonderful way of remembering. Whether it's a glass star that is engraved or a bauble that simply reminds you of them, put it high on the tree, place your lights carefully around it and let the love and memory of your absent friends and family shine in your home every day of Christmas.
Smell a candle.
Many of us will light candles in honour of loved ones at Christmas and throughout the year but we think the real joy lies in smelling a candle. Let us explain, the flame of a candle, even in an empty room is a beautiful site and represents so much from honour to hope and from respect to remembrance but if you want to feel close to a loved one, the real joy is in smelling a candle that reminds you of them. At Christmas time, we are surrounded by festive scents and a magnitude of different candles so take the time to find one that reminds you of your loved ones, play some music that takes you back to wonderful times and watch the candle flicker, immerse yourself in its scent and find yourself feeling like you've had a great hug from the people you miss.
Send a Magical Lantern.
Christmas is an emotional time for many of us and often, when thinking of our loved ones, there is so much we want to say, so many things we want to tell them and many things we'd like to share. So this Christmas we recommend wrapping up warm, finding some beautiful surroundings and whisper all that you want to say into a balloon, or a lantern. Write a letter if it's easier and when you're done, let go and watch the balloon or lantern float up to the sky, taking your messages, your love and your wishes to those who can't be with us.
Honour their traditions.
When we lose someone special to us, doing the things that remind us of them can be so hard but at Christmas time, we think it is important to honour the traditions of our lost family members. You may well shed a tear but those traditions have shaped you and your family and you should be proud and thankful that your memories and all you have today allows you to still make them happen.
Let yourself Believe.
Christmas is the most magical time of the year and we think that even adults can let themselves believe for a few moments. Believe in magic and for a few moments, or the whole season, let yourself feel your loved ones around you, believe in the coincidences and feel the presence of your loved ones, filling your home with hope, love and joy.

Remember also, that at some point you will be that loved one your family are remembering and to give them comfort, to make things easier, let them have confidence and comfort in their final farewell by having a funeral plan sharing exactly what is you, what matters and how you want people to say "we love you and we miss you" when you are no longer here.

If you have any questions or queries, please call us on 01625 322 300.

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